We would like to credit Pastor Ben Reid of True Oak Fellowship and Pastor Danny Hodges of Calvary Chapel St. Petersburg, whose teachings inspired and influenced these interpretations of Scripture pertaining to divorce and remarriage. If so, ask that person to intervene in your marriage. Romans 8:28 tells us that all things work together for the good of those who love God. However, God recognizes that divorce will occur, even among His children. I had dedicated my life to him, and the “blessing” I received was a husband who was unrepentant of his adultery. We, as Christians, need to remember that there is none righteous, not even one (Romans 3:10). 20 Bible Verses for Your Christian Wedding Ceremony. [David] Instone-Brewer [author of Divorce and Remarriage in the Church] argues that Jesus not only defended the true meaning of Deuteronomy 24:1 but also accepted what the rest of the Old Testament taught on divorce. Treat them with the respect they deserve as the parent of your child, or at least as a fellow human being – even if they’re acting like some sort of alien from outer space. But let’s be honest: God does hate divorce…and so do you…and so do I. Most kids will initially go into a form of denial when their parents separate. But God reminded me that he loves me, that I am his chosen child, his treasured possession. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. God hates divorce, and for good reason. The Bible allows divorce – in certain situations – because of the hardness of human hearts. Divorce always should be a last resort. Therefore, watch yourselves carefully, and do not act treacherously.” (CSB), Abandonment and abuse (included in neglect, as affirmed in. The Bible does not command divorce – it permits, regulates and limits divorce. Divorce is the death of a marriage, and it produces both loss and grief. And, it is a decision that should only be made when you (and your future spouse) have taken plenty of time to heal from your past hurts and to become as much like Christ as possible. 3. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.’" (ESV), “‘If he hates and divorces [his wife],’ says the Lord God of Israel, ‘he covers his garment with injustice,’ says the Lord of Hosts. In an age appropriate manner, and without gory details, tell the truth. As I began to look more deeply into Malachi 2:16, I found the context interesting. It is far less about sin and far more about his father’s heart for us. Let me just say that anyone who is throwing Malachi 2:16 at you needs to stop and take a look at Proverbs 6. I was a stay-at-home mom, homeschooling my two youngest children, when I faced my divorce. The children who do the best after a divorce are those who have a strong relationship with both biological parents. Actually, as you do, you also do the things that have the strongest likelihood of causing your spouse to realize what he will lose if the marriage ends.-’What Should You Do When Your Spouse Wants Out’ excerpted from What to Do When Your Spouse Wants Out by Joe Beam on Crosswalk.com. Most divorcing people are very scared during the divorce journey. I’m glad I came. And a husband must not divorce his wife.”, 1 Cor. I was once called, and can never be disqualified because his call is irrevocable (Romans 11:29).-’3 Truths Every Christian Needs to Know about Divorce’ excerpted from 3 Beautiful Truths Every Divorced Christian Needs to Know by Dena Johnson on Crosswalk.com. But we learn in the Bible that singleness is a gift from God. Embrace the Circumstances God Has You InI am reminded of the story of Jesus and His disciples in the boat (Matthew 8:23-27). The ESV Study Bible agrees that this is one of the most difficult Old Testament passages to translate. Will I Still Be Married to My Spouse in Heaven? Editor's Note:This is a general collection of what the Bible says about divorce; it does not presume to give advice for specific relationships resulting in divorce. But it’s often an invitation to seek a relationship with the One who knows how to cure the pain and fill the void. You also make strides toward salvaging your marriage.…. That stings! All rights reserved. Actually it still hasn’t really stopped, but He is always working things out even if I can’t yet see it. Love in the Bible: From God's Love to the Most Romantic Scriptures, Christian Wedding Symbols: The Meaning Behind the Traditions, What to Do When You Do Not Want Your Spouse for Eternity, General Biblical Studies, Interdenominational Christian Training Center. No matter what, any interpretation is exactly that: a human interpretation. 2. Again crowds of people came to him, and as was his custom, he taught them. Christian views on divorce find their basis both in biblical sources dating to the giving of the law to Moses (Deut 24:1–4) and political developments in the Christian world long after standardization of the Bible.According to the synoptic Gospels, Jesus emphasized the permanence of marriage, (see Mark 10 at verses 1 to 9, Matthew 19; Luke 16 v. Patiently work out how to deal with situations or problems that seem overwhelming. Zechariah 9:12 tells us that God will repay two blessings for each of our troubles. In a more personal way, novelist Pat Conroy said of his own marriage break-up, “Each divorce is the death of a small civilization.” One woman wrote after her divorce, “Our divorce has been the most painful, horrid, ulcer producing, agonizing event you can imagine. 2:13-15. I’ve learned a lot from my divorce and the healing afterwards. And 1 Peter 5:10 says that the suffering won’t last forever but one day he will have you put together and on your feet again. A divorced and/or remarried believer should not feel any less loved by God, even if the divorce and/or remarriage is not covered under the possible … 4. Copyright © 2020, Bible Study Tools. This is huge loss that also needs to be mourned. The Bible uses strong language when discussing divorce. With time to grieve, the proper help, and Jesus Christ, children from divorced homes can eventually become whole again.